With the start of the new year many people turn to resolutions, or goals. It’s kind of ingrained in us that if we want to get anywhere in life you have to set goals. However history is now showing us that setting goals may not be the right thing for you to do.
In fact, setting goals may be doing you more harm than good. So in this post we are going to learn why not to set goals may be a better way to goal. We know this goes contrary to everything you’ve been taught.
We ask that you bear with us as we present our case for why not to set goals. We think you’ll find this very interesting.
Why Not To Set Goals
Are S.M.A.R.T. goals ruining people’s lives? Is there a better way to think about our dreams and goals than to make them so “smart” – specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, time-bound?
In this episode of The Charged Life, high performance coach and motivational legend Brendon Burchard shares how to dream big and be bold again. Watch the video below now to learn why not setting goals may be the best way to go.
Tips for living without goals
I am not going to give you a how-to manual for living without goals — that would be absurd. I can’t teach you what to do — you need to find your own path.
But I can share some things I’ve learned, in hopes that it will help you:
- Start small. You don’t need to drastically overhaul your life in order to learn to live without goals. Just go a few hours without predetermined goals or actions. Follow your passion for those hours. Even an hour will do.
- Grow. As you get better at this, start allowing yourself to be free for longer periods — half a day or a whole day or several days. Eventually you’ll feel confident enough to give up on certain goals and just do what you love.
- Not just work. Giving up goals works in any area of your life. Take health and fitness: I used to have specific fitness goals, from losing weight or bodyfat to running a marathon to increasing my squat. Not anymore: now I just do it because I love it, and I have no idea where that will take me. It works brilliantly, because I always enjoy myself.
- Let go of plans. Plans are not really different than goals. They set you on a predetermined path. But it’s incredibly difficult to let go of living with plans, especially if you’re a meticulous planner like I am. So allow yourself to plan, when you feel you need to, but slowly feel free to let go of this habit.
- Don’t worry about mistakes. If you start setting goals, that’s OK. There are no mistakes on this journey — it’s just a learning experience. If you live without goals and end up failing, ask yourself if it’s really a failure. You only fail if you don’t get to where you wanted to go — but if you don’t have a destination in mind, there’s no failure.
- It’s all good. No matter what path you find, no matter where you end up, it’s beautiful. There is no bad path, no bad destination. It’s only different, and different is wonderful. Don’t judge, but experience.